My little man is sick this week...

My little man is sick this week.  He's been sick since Sunday.  We went to his grandparent's house for his birthday and he was given the gift of a cold and fever by his very generous granddad (I'm being sarcastic if you haven't figured that out).  I'm really annoyed because they didn't let me know he was sick.  My father in-law has unwell and unable to kick a pretty bad caugh for weeks now, but they didn't let us know before making the trip.  I think they ddn't because they knew I would have re-scheduled our visit and my mother in-law didn't want to have to wait to see Ethan.
Don't get me wrong, I like my mother in-law very much, but I can't help being annoyed because I now have a sick 1 year old who may have to have his birthday party canclled to aviod the other babies from getting what he has.  His party is Sunday and I feel like if I announce Ethan isn't well that I'll be stuck with a party that no-one will show up for because if I don't tell the other partens than I'm no better than the in-laws were for not telling me.  They at least deserve the choice right?
The worst part is that I didn't even want to have this party.  I've been so depressed about not being with my family and friends for Ethan's first birthday.  I hate not being able to share the special times with the people I love.  It's really hard being so far away.  I was just going to have a party with some of the other Moms that I see so that I could have a photo for the photo album and Ethan can get some gifts to open.  But it's not as if anyone will be here that really loves him (except maybe the girl who babysits him occasionally).
Since we've been back from our last visit home, my mother and I both got really good web cams and we make a point to get on at least once a week (if not more).  Ethan really enjoys it and shows off for his grandparents who make a big fuss over everything he does.  I had asked all of my family to get web cams, but it just wasn't a priority and no-one else has (which has been a big disappointment because I wanted him to stay familiar with all of them after our visit in March).  I wanted him to know who they were.  At least he'll know grandma & grandpa next time he sees them.  Time's up - the little man is screaming upstairs.  he can't sleep because he's too congested...